{"id":529,"date":"2003-08-21T10:12:17","date_gmt":"2003-08-21T18:12:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cgm13.net\/wordpress\/?p=529"},"modified":"2026-09-28T15:03:10","modified_gmt":"2026-09-28T19:03:10","slug":"not-the-only-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/?p=529","title":{"rendered":"Not the Only One"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!--106147513733133063--><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bentkid.com\/archive\/2003_08_17_bent_arch.html#106146945569255255\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Good Advice<\/strong><\/a> from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bentkid.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Tyler<\/strong><\/a> for someone who is also in my boat:<br \/>\n<i>So consider this a slap and a push. I don&#8217;t know your friend. He&#8217;s just a person. I agree that he&#8217;s quite beautiful (of course &#8212; you&#8217;re not gonna have a crush on an ugly unavailable boy!). But, Babe, he&#8217;s a big boy and he&#8217;ll live. I&#8217;m sorry that your friendship has probably ended &#8212; but you know something? For your emotional well-being it probably should. That&#8217;s harsh, but it true. You can&#8217;t be a fully functioning adult who doesn&#8217;t self-medicate with regular doses of 420 to keep your brain silent and your emotions at bay while still in such a relationship. I suspect that you also douse your turmoil with a good splash of vodka regularly too. Well, it certainly works, but the long-term costs of that kind of medication are devestating. So stop it. <\/i><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s good to know that I am not the only dumb gay male out there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Good Advice from Tyler for someone who is also in my boat: So consider this a slap and a push. I don&#8217;t know your friend. He&#8217;s just a person. I agree that he&#8217;s quite beautiful (of course &#8212; you&#8217;re not gonna have a crush on an ugly unavailable boy!). But, Babe, he&#8217;s a big boy [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-529","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-daily"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p8EnCu-8x","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/529","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=529"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/529\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12247,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/529\/revisions\/12247"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=529"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=529"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theboywonder.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=529"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}